Beginning Monday, March 12, 2012 at 9pm EST, AVoiceforMen and Shrink4Men will join forces. Paul Elam of AVfM and I will work together in an effort to deal with the issues that matter to men in their lives with women – in ways that matter to men.
This will not be a men’s rights (MRA) show nor will it be a “relationship advice” show in the traditional sense. These programs will be about helping men understand the nature of women, how to deal with them and how to thrive instead of living in some kind of day-to-day survival mode.
Instead of preaching at men à la Oprah and Dr Phil to validate every single female emotion no matter how out of touch with reality, to be patient and understanding of a woman’s emotional and physical abuse, to always put a woman’s needs, wants and feelings first, and to sacrifice your dignity, sanity, offspring, physical and financial health to a woman who does not have your best interests at heart; Paul and I will encourage men to stand up for yourselves, to set healthy limits and boundaries, to recognize that your well-being and happiness is equally important, to believe that you are not second class citizens in your relationships and that if a woman doesn’t treat you with reciprocal respect, kindness and love that she is not worth your time.
The first show this coming Monday is Shit Tests: How and Why to Fail Them with Finesse and Style.
Shit tests are part of the naturally occurring dance of power and control in many intimate relationships. Basically, a shit test is something many women do in order to determine how much “shit” a man will let them get away with in the context of the relationship. Shit tests are also where many men’s spines and spirits will die slow, miserable deaths by a thousand cuts.
Paul and I will examine common shit tests, give you the lowdown on why they are happening and some solid suggestions on how to handle them. Not only is it okay to fail a woman’s shit test; it’s how you move to the head of the class. Be an under-achiever and get an F!
This first program will mark the beginning of what we hope will be a relevant and important new age in which men learn that you don’t have to surrender your balls in order to be in a relationship with a woman and that, in fact, surrendering your balls is oftentimes what sows the seeds of contempt in a woman and the seeds of resentment in you.
We’ll be taking calls so phone in (+1 310 388 9709) or Skype in with questions and/or stories about shit tests to which you’ve been subjected. Hope to see you there!
Shrink4Men Coaching and Consulting Services:
Dr Tara J. Palmatier provides confidential, fee-for-service, consultation/coaching services to help both men and women work through their relationship issues via telephone and/or Skype chat. Her practice combines practical advice, support, reality testing and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Shrink4Men Services page for professional inquiries.